It’s a question that pops up far too often: “Am I too old for…?”
This time it was dungarees, from a women on Facebook in her 50s, but I’ve seen many others. Jeans, slogan tees, bobble hats, mini skirts – at some point, some woman somewhere has been told she’s too old to wear it.
Don’t believe me? Then check out this post from Everyday Health of the Top 10 items you’re too old to wear.
To save you reading – and deny such ageist material the click! – their list of what we shouldn’t wear is:
- message T-shirts,
- too-trendy denim (obviously only old-fashioned denim will do),
- costume shoes,
- micro-mini skirts (nothing more than 4ins above the knee),
- anything showing excessive cleavage (too much saggy skin, apparently),
- white vests,
- hair accessories,
- oversized, decorated hobo bags,
- cheap, unflattering underwear (who buys underwear they consider unflattering?), and
- loud accessories (sorry, Prue Leith).
Rules are great when it comes to not getting knocked down crossing the road. But fashion rules seem to forget one important thing: the fashion world doesn’t like anyone over the age of 29.
Fashion is all geared for trendy Wendies in their 20s. The rest of us – forget it!
Well, I’m calling out the fashion rules. Just like widows being expected to dress in black for years has gone out the window, it’s time to put these antiquated ideas behind.
Older women are still sexy – and sexual
For a start – do you want to tell Elle Macpherson she’s too old for anything this short?
That’s because older women are still sexy – if not sexier, because age brings confidence with it.
When I go out now, I want to rock my socks off in a way I never did when I was in my 20s, when I had no self-esteem or confidence.
And yes, the perimenopause can put a dampener on our enthusiasm and energy. But once we get that sorted, it’s a case of: “World watch out!”
Who you really are is ageless
Madonna is 60, but there is no way she is going to settle down with the People’s Friend and a bag of humbugs.
Because she’s never been that sort of woman.
While I’m older and wiser than I was in my younger days, inside I’m still the same: someone who doesn’t want to do what everyone else is doing.
In my teens and 20s, that showed itself by listening to Indie music and wearing dark colours.
I’ve changed in many ways but at heart, that is still me, just as Madonna will always be the Material Girl even when she’s rocking it in her 80s.
Our spirits are ageless; it’s the language used about us that’s old.
We’re punks and new romantics
At this time of the year, magazines, adverts and newspapers are filled with fashion trends for the next season. Each one modelled on someone young.
As far as they’re concerned, women over 40 don’t care about trends and catwalks. We’re supposed to wear quality classics that you buy in those shops just off the high street – you know, the ones out of sight so we don’t sully the shopping experience for the rest.
Of course, “quality classics” is really code for “expensive sacks in a shade of meh”.
Forget Zara and H&M, we’re directed to the likes of Debenhams and M&S. Instead of bright colours and prints, we’re told to wear camel and neutrals.
Time to wake up, manufacturers, because we’re the generation brought up with punk and new romantics and we have never followed fashion’s rules.
Add a few rips to those nice smart white jeans and I may consider them. With a Depeche Mode T-shirt, of course.
Bodies are bodies
A few years ago, Mr 50Sense and I went on holiday in Valencia. Filled with the sunny spirit (aka vino) one night, we dared each other to go to the nearby nudist beach the next day.
Come 9am the following morning and neither of us wanted to back down. So off we trotted, beach bag minus swimwear in hand.
Giggling and slightly nervous, we made our way to a sandbank and disrobed – sitting down sharply to avoid being seen in our un-ironed birthday suits.
But then nothing. Much as I’d like to dream my naked body could stop the traffic, nobody took any notice of us. They were all too busy laughing and talking and playing bat and ball (what is this fascination with bat and ball in Europe?).
When they saw us, they just saw a body anatomically the same as theirs. Yes, there were a few lumps and bumps and jelly bellies on display (mainly me) and one man did throw a particularly large shadow from a certain part of his anatomy, but when it came down to it, we were all the same.
So wear the cleavage regardless of how saggy your skin may be or go a cheeky five inches above your knees with your skirt.
Because they’re only bodies.
We already have a style
A couple of years ago, I featured in an article in The Sun about women who don’t dress their age. Being a journalist, I was well aware of what I was potentially letting myself in store for – these pieces are inevitably hit by negative comments. But I felt the message was important enough to take the risk.
Mercifully, it escaped the attention of trolls – except for one man (it’s always a man) who commented: “They each look their age.”
Duh, yeah! That was the point. It wasn’t about not looking your age; it was about not being defined by it.
We’d all learnt that fashion is about expressing who you are. That it’s about taking trends and fads and making them work for you. And that doesn’t change just because you hit 40.
Because all these women…
I’m going to leave the last word with these fabulous fashionistas – breaking all the rules and I love every one of them for doing it. Enjoy…
So what do you think? Should we tone it down as we get older? Or do you max it out in minis? Let me know below…
Photos: Elle Macpherson. Jennifer Lopez. Prue Leith
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